The P-E-Q-D-C Framework Explained (Free Coaching Demo)

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As a coach, the number one thing that a client comes to you for is to break patterns, to break their old behaviors, and being able to find a new version of themselves and then live their lives like that new version. If you are a coach that is wanting to create that for your clients, this video is for you. I have coached for over 10 years. I have coached entrepreneurs. I have coached athletes. And time after time, what I found is the simpler my coaching model, the faster the outcomes. the simpler my approach to working with them, the faster the outcomes. It sounds counterintuitive. It seems like we should make it more complicated because human beings are so complicated. But if you really observe human behavior, if you observe how people change and what makes people change, it really boils down to something that now I call as PQDC. It is the five letters that you need to remember. And if you remember them in that order and do it with your clients, you will see change happen in a matter of 10 maybe 15 minutes. And uh I'm going to demonstrate that to you at the end of this video. I'm going to show you some live case studies of people I coach live. So you can see this model in action. This model comes from years and years of coaching, years and years of success of not just me but of my students who have learned my models of coaching. And this is an adaptation of a much more robust system that we have in our certified life coach program. The system I'm going to show you is a simplified almost immediately implementable system that you can try on as I'm explaining it to you. We're going to take the model of PEQDC and break it apart so you can fully understand it. Test it out for yourself on yourself. The first step is P. P stands for patterns. We all have patterns. We are patterned individuals. We live our lives in different patterns that we've established because of our past, because of our present, because of the stories we told ourselves. What happened in the past was not the truth. Our experience of what happened in the past was the truth. What happened in the past cannot be changed. Our experience or what happened in the past can change and we can write a new story going forward. But to do any of that, we have to first know what is our pattern. So P is the discovery of the pattern we have. We don't need to know the old story of our clients. We don't need to relate to anything like trauma or what's the background story. We just need to know what's the pattern that the client is having trouble with. What's the pattern that they're willing to change? So for example, if somebody says, "Hey, I have a challenge that I find it really hard to be loved." If that is a pattern that somebody has, you want to first discover what is it that caused this pattern? Not to relive the trauma, but to understand where the story might be originating. Let's expand this example. The example of you don't feel loved. It happened because there was somebody in your life in the past that said they love you, but they didn't really express it properly or they didn't love you the way you want to be loved. The reason why that pattern probably exists is because somewhere along the way you made up a story that the expression of love is how that person expressed love to you which is not how you experience love. So your way of experiencing love is completely different than how they express love. And now you have a hard time experiencing love because you think love is through gifts. The most common reason or why somebody develops a pattern is a defense mechanism. It's a way for us to not be hurt, right? So, whenever you're discovering or you're in discovery with a client, you want to ask yourself, what is it that might have caused this pattern? And once you've discovered why this pattern exists, now you have an understanding of the P of the PEQDC, which is the pattern. Whatever caused the pattern for this client, it was an event that happened in their life that they made a meaning bigger than it actually was. Let me give you an example from my life. I grew up in India. And in India at the time that I was growing up, parenting was done pretty lightly. There was not much attention paid to the kid. And also if you slapped your kid once in a while, it was okay. There's a particular story that happened in my life where there was an event in the evening in front of my uncle. I got slapped because I was fighting with my brother. And because I had that story in my mind and made a big deal about that story, I started to believe because of that event that my mother doesn't love me because why would she hit me? why would she do it publicly? You know, all that stuff that we tell ourselves and make that the absolute truth of our lives. Now, of course, it had a deep consequence in my life, right? Because the moment you start to believe even if your mother doesn't love you, you cannot be loved as a person. And if you cannot be loved as a person, well, good luck finding love. And so, I ended up in this vicious cycle of always chasing and always hoping that somebody gives me the love I deserve. right now when I recognized as to why is it so hard for me to feel love this pattern existed in my life at that time because I didn't want to be in a place where I didn't feel love I created a defense mechanism I said oh I I just I don't expect love I'm not a lovable person so I created these barriers that existed in my life at the time until I said if I keep living my life like this how is it that I will ever experience 's true love in my life. And so I said, okay, I can't change what happened in the past, but what I can do is change what's going to happen next. And so I started asking myself a different question. I said, okay, if an event can create a story, is there a possibility that another event can create another story? And if that is to be true, what if I just manufactured an event? What if I just created an event? See, while I fought that story, while I believe that story to be true, I was now in a position where I said it was an event and I made up a meaning, I can cause another event and that will give me another meaning. So I went ahead and I started writing down all the moments I could possibly remember when my mother showed absolute love for me. And it was fascinating. The same person I couldn't experience love from on how much love she had given me all my life. I found that the first person to put me on stage, the first person to truly believe in me was my mother. She was the one who put me on stage when I was maybe 7 years old at a local wedding function. She was the one who really cheered me on for all the performances I wanted to do. She was the one who saw the intelligence in me and made a consistent request that I don't throw away my talent. She has been the one that would stay up till late for me to make sure that I eat well before I go to bed. That was all my mother, right? But I remember that one event when I got that one tight lap and I forgot about all the other events. So I started making up this event. So where I said okay all these events that I also remember that of course settled into my memory and haven't been so present except that one big event that caused me to create a whole different pattern. I forgot all these little events that were actually more important. So I started writing them down and create a mental frame of how much I was loved and how many different ways I was loved every single day of my life. Which brings us to creating events. P was pattern or identifying your pattern. E is creating another event. When you create another event that is counter to what your pattern is. When you find evidence of whatever happened in the past to be maybe true but the new event and the new story to be absolutely true. You can step into the queue or quantum change that needs to occur from there. The reason why I call it quantum change is because quantum change invites us to think about how different our life would be if we believed a completely different story about ourselves. You find an event or create an event because you look at life from a broader lens and you suddenly go, "Oh, there is so much more in my life than what I believed to be true." And you take that new event and invite yourself to a quantum change. A quantum change is you understanding how different your life would be if you chose a different story. So once you go, oh there's a different story that's possible. You can see the different story unfold. You can see the quantum shift happen. The D in PEQD is decide. You have to make a decision. You have to say hell yes to yourself and to this new life that you just imagined as you were going through this quantum shift. As you were going through this quantum change as you're just seeing how your life would be significantly different just because this one pattern interrupt and a new story that you start to tell yourself. Once you have decided comes the most difficult part. See we think that once we make a decision life's just going to unfold exactly as we plan. life doesn't unfold as we plan. The most powerful version of life that you want, it's not just going to happen for you. It will test you. It will prepare you because the challenges that come in the way are going to be the creators of the version that can fully accept this new quantum shift version of you. For me, yes, I felt the love. I made the decision. I am loved. But every day I have to act from a place of courage because those moments of courage is what really establishes and creates a whole new pattern. That's the point which is every point going forward that changes your life completely. You got to choose every day. You got to choose every moment. And every time you choose that moment, you see that change that you wanted, the personality that you wanted, the the person you wanted to become, the love that you wanted, the abundance that you wanted, the health that you wanted, it becomes real with every decision that you make of courage. So that's the C of PEQDC is moments of courage. Every time you take a moment of courage and take the action that you said you're going to take, keep the decision that you made is when you truly start to transform. Now, here's the kicker, and that's probably a really good reminder to remember. As you will take these moments of courage, there will be moments where you will be weak. There will be moments where you will want to fail. There will be moments where you will fail. There will be days where your 100% is not good enough. And those are the moments when you have to give yourself grace. And that's why I call it moments of courage is because it's not going to be easy just because you decided. It's not going to be easy because now you can see the future. It's not going to be easy because now you have a new event. This the pattern that you've established for 10, 20, 30, 40, heck 50 years sometimes. If it's a 50year-old pattern, can you give it 50 weeks to change? Because if something has been your default for 20 years, to expect it to break in 20 days might be a tall order. But to break it in 20 weeks or even 20 months, I think you can do it. I think you've done it if you would just believe. So P EQ DC pattern. Find your pattern why it exists and what is it serving you for? E event. Create an event, a new event in your mind based on the evidence that either is present already because you look at the breath of your life, the grandness of your life and see if you can find evidence and create a new event with that evidence. Right now you're making up the current pattern as well. Why not create a new event? Make it up based on all the different other factors that you haven't considered just yet. Q a quantum change. Quantum change is a story that you get to see in your mind in your reality as you see the new event unfold and create a new personality, a new version of yourself. Make a decision that you will choose this new life. You will choose this new personality. You will choose who you always knew you could become. And see, act from a place of courage. Give yourself grace. Give yourself some time. Give yourself some peace so you can work through this really difficult pattern. Create a new one for yourself. Now, there's an event I was doing a couple days ago and I was taking people through this model and we were able to record on camera. It's not the highest quality recording, but you get to see this in action. We're going to show you two case studies of different individuals who went through this process and saw immediate shift for themselves. They were able to go through the process of PEQDC and you will see the shift immediately in them in their personality and the way they show up, the way the demeanor that they have and I think it's going to be really impactful for you to watch that. Next, what you're going to watch in this video is two of our students coming up live in a seminar setting where I'm taking them through this process. Yeah, this is where you are now. Was all say hi to everyone. >> Hello. >> Can you hear her? Give me in the comment. >> Hello. >> All right. Yes, you can hear her. Awesome. So, tell me for the people tell your name. >> Uh Carla Marie Ulary. >> All right. Carla is here joining us in the live event. And Carla, what is it that you want to work on today? >> So, I need to independently get clients. So right now I work with businesses uh farmer companies but through my previous employer >> and I have not yet had success landing my own clients independently. >> Mhm. What is there a pattern that you find yourself in? Is this is this a default that you fall back to is like oh I must partner with someone to become successful has then I'm just totally intuitively checking in here. I have no idea. >> Yes. Yeah. >> So, I originally started my business back in 15 2016. >> Mhm. >> Then went back to work. >> Uh-huh. um left again last year, changed my offer a few times, >> a few more times, and so >> now I'm committed, >> but I can see myself possibly changing again because things aren't moving >> as quickly as I want them to move and I'm accustomed being successful at the things I do. >> So, when they're not working, >> then I feel I need to change. >> Amazing. How many of you see yourself in in this position for yourself where you seem to start something but restart it restart it restarted restarted restart right 100% so many absolutely so many yeses a lot of people see themselves in that situation so the the the pattern that you say that you have is that there is you know this repeating pattern of I need to rely on someone else to find me clients right I need to get into a partnership if not I have to go back to a job right >> right is there what's been new truth because of that is that being and I'm just curiously asking these questions seem tell me if there's any truth in any of it is that is that because you're constantly going back to a partner it feels like a crap my business is limited by somebody else's grace >> pretty much yeah right my business and my potential is limited by somebody else's grace a little bit >> yes >> yeah you feel that okay does it feel like that because you're limited by somebody else's grace you never really get to decide your own potential >> to some extent and then >> you even know what's your potential potential? >> Not really. No. >> Yeah. >> How does it feel to know that you don't even freaking know your own potential? Like, what are you capable of? >> It's a bit annoying. >> Mhm. >> Because I know my background, so I know that I can do a whole lot more than I'm doing. I just don't know why I'm not doing what I could potentially be capable of. >> Okay. So tell me what are you capable of based on what just said your background and all of it. Can you step one step forward so people can see you a little bit more and you can turn a little bit so they can see you there. Tell me. >> So all right by way of background I have an undergraduate degree in IT graduated with a 3.9 something masters in finance 4.0. Uh law degree top third >> Mhm. >> of the class. >> Amazing. >> Top Yeah. top third. great atmically academically. >> Um >> the clients I've gotten to my previous employer have asked me by name. >> So I get great feedback. Always deliver overd deliver. >> Mhm. >> But yeah, there's there's something when it comes to me working for myself. I either don't take payment. >> Mhm. Um I I mean I I overd deliver but I underell myself or I negotiate against myself or there there's always something. So I know that when I'm on my own and and I've been on my own mostly in the academic setting >> that I can excel and I can overform and I drive myself >> but for some reason when it it comes to a professional setting I feel I need to have a partner be with somebody else you know >> I I may not like being an employee >> but I still feel like somebody else's credibility is is more than mine even though it's it's truly me doing the work. >> Yeah. >> Cuz cuz they don't they don't even check in. >> So they don't even care like they don't even care what potential you have. You're like there's a sender over there. We'll get our billing. We'll pay her whatever that is. Right. So they don't see your potential. >> You don't see your potential clearly because you're not living it. Right. Somewhat. Right. So it's just a little bit annoying or it's frustrating as >> It's frustrating. >> It's frustrating. >> It's frustrating. >> You don't look frustrated. >> Noel. Yeah. I I'm >> Is this a happy frustration? Like, haha, I'm so happy that I >> No, no, it's not. But laugh or cry, right? Those are the two choices. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Those are the two choices. >> So, are you saying you're that frustrated that you're hiding that your soul's crying, but you're laughing so you don't have to cry? >> Yes, pretty much. >> Okay. >> How does it feel in your body to be that frustrated? Uh, so I have this this tension that essentially rises from my stomach and comes all the way up to my chest and it stops right here. >> Mhm. >> And it's it's really annoying and I just I don't know. It It's like I'm I'm running into a wall all the time. >> Mhm. >> Again, great feedback. Oh, she's awesome. We want her to work. No, we don't want anybody else. Send her. But still, I feel stuck. Yeah. Do you feel stuck? I get that. But how does it feel to feel the stuck? What we are really doing for you right now or we are hoping to do for you right now is create that event. Damn. >> Make you feel how shitty it is to not be able to see a somebody else not see your potential that you worked for and probably made them a lot of money. They more importantly not be able to honor your own potential. It it it hurts. It It hurts and it's frustrating and it I get sad but I try not to dwell on it. >> Mhm. >> Because I have so many people who depend on me and I have a daughter who looks up to me. So I I have to smile. >> Mhm. And I have to make sure that she feels that I'm fine even though I'm not fine. >> Do you really believe your daughter thinks you're fine when you're not? >> She knows. She knows. She's she's very intuitive. >> How do you feel like a mother to know that your daughter probably is thinking it is better to hide my feelings than to live my potential? >> She she told me I was lying a couple times because she asked me like, "How are you?" I said, "I'm okay." thing. No, that's not true. >> That's not true. So, it it doesn't it doesn't feel good. It really doesn't feel good. >> Right. Right. So, what are we going to do about it? What is a potential different way of looking at yourself to at least give yourself a chance to honor your potential? I have to see the capability that my clients see. I have to give myself if I gave myself half of what I give them, it would it would make a whole lot of difference in my life. >> Mhm. >> Just half of what I give to everybody. >> How would that look like giving yourself at least half of what you give to your clients? What would that story look like? How would that honor look like self? That would mean that would mean making decisions from I don't want to say a place of selfishness, but but truly putting myself first. looking at situations is okay, is this the best thing for me? >> Is this going to build me long term? Is this in alignment with what I want to do? Am I going to be happy doing it? And if not, why would I want to do it anyway? What is the long-term benefit? And if I can't see that, then be willing to walk away. So, serving myself as my first as the first client in any situation. Mhm. Okay. So, do you think today you feel a little bit more ready to decide that you can serve yourself first and then worry about others? Would you be open to that decision? >> Yes. >> What would that look like on a day-to-day basis? Taking care of yourself first. And by taking care of yourself where it doesn't only mean, of course, bubble baths or whatever. It also means actually honoring your potential and saying, "I'm going to do whatever heck I got to do to build what I got to build." What would that look like on a day-to-day basis? >> So, for me, it would be owning the morning. Um, because I clearly have a a billionaire pattern, but not the billionaire bank account because I'm the person who gets up at at 3:3, 4, and I'm ready to go. >> Mhm. >> And then something happens >> and I don't know what the something is. And then it's 7:00 and the entire house is up and I now no longer have time. So, it's really sticking to the, you know, you spoke about a six-month >> schedule. I have a six-mon schedule. >> I have, you know, stuff laid out. It's now committing to doing it no matter what every day and then giving myself space, but not too much space. >> Mhm. >> If one day I don't make it, that I'm not beating up on myself. That I'm saying, "Okay, we didn't get it today, but we can. What can we do now for the rest of the day? What can we do to prepare ourselves better for tomorrow? >> That's what that looks like. But but for me, it has to happen in the morning because my day once anybody else is up, that's my day. My day is done. >> And then I'm running after everybody else's situation, whether it's client or parent or child or husband, it's always somebody else. >> So 3:30 to 6:30, that's what you got to own. Yeah. >> Yes. >> Roughly. Yeah. Cool. Awesome. Amazing. So, we went through your pattern. You actually tried to create a demand. I don't know if it was strong enough, but hopefully you really felt it in your body. I did. >> But you chose a quantum change and you made a decision. And you also now know what moment of current you need. You need to wake up at 3:30 and not fall for the trap. Not reply to emails, but honor what you need to honor first. >> How do you know I was replying to emails? >> I know you. I know everyone and everybody knows this. I'm kidding. But uh but you need to honor that instead of honoring other people because when you reply to emails first thing in the morning means you live on somebody else's agenda. >> Yes. >> You're honoring somebody else's schedule, not yours. >> Yes. >> Right. How does that feel? >> It feels good. >> Feels good. >> It feels good. >> Would you would you find your group here and have them help you live these moments of courage? >> They will. They will. Awesome. Amazing. Give it up for Give it up for her coming up here. Thank you. All right, cool. All right, Iris, why don't you go ahead and tell what you wrote here and then go work with that. >> Okay, so um I've struggled with um there. >> Oh, I struggled with um the typical not being good enough. Um I've done a lot of work, 15 years of therapy, just talking about my for 15 years and walking away and not ever having actually had a solution. Um, so I've learned though that my my relationship with my mom um had resulted in a certain now I know that I had limiting beliefs that has uh really impacted the choices that I made in my life and as a result having had a lot of hurt. Um, I think the one biggest hurt is my ex-husband who I ended up with the narcissist and um anyways um and so I've been doing a lot of work to work on myself. Um I'm very much like some of the people here very successful in school and in profession but personally I'm a total wreck. Um and I think I made a lot of progress to do the selft talk like I am good enough and be confident but I still have like right now as I think about it I still have a visceral um feeling of it still holding me back on certain things. So I want to challenge you to you're supposed to get challenges how >> okay I want you to challenge >> you are challenging me am I good enough >> is because I don't feel good enough I must make you feel not good enough >> so I will get you your story about giving yourself time to get over your old story and so you gave yourself 36 months um I've been living with this for 55 years I'm 60 I just turned turn 60 this year. And so, um, but I've been working on it since I was maybe 35. >> Okay. Beautiful. Beautiful. And what's the what the pattern is? Not feeling good enough. >> Yes. And where it's holding me back right now is in this whole coaching thing. >> Okay. >> This coaching endeavor. coaching has been something that I was thinking about for 10 years >> thinking but then actively trying to do something about it ever since I found Mind Valley earlier this year. >> Mhm. >> Um and then taking the CLC and actually >> taking courses to do something about it. >> Yeah. >> And I >> You're an A+ student, >> right? and I did my homework, >> but I still feel uncomfortable putting myself out there >> and afraid of judgment, afraid of social media, afraid of um what people will think of me, especially my friends and especially my professional network. >> Okay, fair enough. So, you're not feeling good enough right now. It manifests in whatever you're trying to build next. We just say coaching and it translates as, "Oh, anything I put out, I don't know if it's good enough." So you get into the loop of nothing is good enough. Is is that a summary of what's happening for you pattern-wise? >> Pattern wise is because I'm not good enough then I fear the judgment, >> rejection and the failure. >> And so it's >> Have you ever defined what's good enough? >> No. Do you know the standards are good enough >> related to what I'm trying to achieve? >> Good enough is like seeing examples like you >> or like in class. >> So why do you see examples like me? >> They're a hat. Easy. I can buy a hat. I can even give you one. >> Because you're an effective coach with a long tenure and >> okay >> successful and people sign up just to you know follow you and and be in your proximity. So the standard you're saying is you need to wear a hat and then you need to have a long tenure of coaching which means you have to start coaching and then you have to get success with people which means you have to work with people. Uh what else? >> I have to be effective in making changes for other people and actually being able to bring results for other people >> which means you have to work with people which >> yes >> that's the standard that's it will tell you you're good enough. Okay. I struggle with that when you say, "Well, what's good enough?" It's why is it that I know I'm good enough, but I don't feel it. And it >> because you don't define it. >> It's so visceral that it's it's really frustrating. >> I know it is. So, when you feel hungry >> Mhm. Can you define it when you feel hungry? Kind of like you know >> this means I'm hungry. Right. Right. How do you know you're not good enough? If you don't define it, you will never be good enough because there is no point of destination. >> Mhm. >> And that's true for everyone. So the point of view and this is why by the way this happens with all of us, right? We constantly tell ourselves I'm not good enough. Not good enough. not good enough. It's like having a horizon and saying I am not getting there. It's because it's a bloody horizon. It keeps moving every time you get there. Right? If you say no, this is point B and that's the destination instead of horizon is my destination. >> You can actually get to the destination. If your definition of good enough was what you just defined and just as an example, I'm not saying that has to be the definition. But let's say the definition is ajit is good enough. Let's say and the reason why I did this is good enough because he has coached for many years. He has worked with people and he's gotten them results. >> Mhm. >> Now you know how to be good enough. You have to work with people. You have to do it for long enough. You get them results. It's actually really easy to be good enough. But because it's arbitrary, because I don't feel good enough, it's never going to get fulfilled because it's arbitrary. Remember one of the days we were talking and I asked you when will you feel financial freedom and you gave me a number >> and then they questioned that number >> because it was an arbitrary number. It made no sense. You didn't do the math, right? And so it's just a big number that you have to chase. Is it the right number, wrong number? Do you even need that number? If you don't know, you just keep chasing. You never feel fulfilled. The best way to live an unfulfilled life is to not define what fulfillment even feels like for you. To constantly feel not good enough is to let somebody else define first of all that what is good enough. So you setting me as a good enough example is a definite recipe for you never to feel good enough. Because let's say I started coaching 10 years ago, which I did, and you're going to start today. Good luck catching up with me. I already have 10 years advantage. It's time. You can catch up, >> right? Because in 10 years I'll be 20 years of experience. >> Mhm. Mhm. >> Right. So you're externalizing good enough first of all which never is possible. Right. Because how can I define your standard of good enough? Like you can't define standard of my good enough. Right. I kind of look this hot at 60. No. Not I'm not cracking. I was like I was trying to crack her a little bit. I was like you're taking this too seriously. >> I was like >> right. Yeah. I was just trying to crack you. It's like it's okay, right? I can't expect to look like you at 60. You look amazing at 60. I thought you were 40 when you were sitting there like, "Oh, you must be 40." You feel like I'm 60. What are you talking about? Great. Fantastic. I don't expect myself to look at 60 like this. It's amazing. But that's not how I define good enough. I am me. What do I want to look like at 60? How will I want to look like good to myself? Right? First of all, you can't externalize good enough. Secondly, you got to define good enough. What is your definition of good enough? When will you be good enough? >> It doesn't matter. Okay. >> It you when you asked me that question, I honestly said >> that's a dumb question. >> Okay. So, what does that make you feel? >> It made me feel like that's like I've been working for nothing because I've always said, you know, where I am, things happen for a reason. Where I am is where I need to be. And I do have evidence of like I just said of being good enough and I'm just making up re I'm making up excuses and and I just haven't taken that same mindset to the coaching thing and I think I'm just making excuses for myself. >> I get it. What's the final thing that is just on your tip of the tongue? And you almost said it, but you didn't say it. That you don't want to define what's good enough because go good enough is not in the future. They're already good enough. You almost said it. >> Yeah. I didn't know how. >> You are saying it in many different ways. I've got the experience. I have got all this in my life. I've had all this stuff. I've done this. You almost said it and then somehow you don't say it. So do you feel from this conversation that the question of that one day you'll be good enough is such a dumb question to ask? >> Yes. >> Because there's no moment in time. >> Yeah. >> That you're not good enough. >> Yeah. I'm sorry. >> You don't have to be sorry. Okay. Absolutely. Oh gosh. What the hell happened? A quantum shift. Quantum changes happened. Oh, I that's what I beed. I It's all I mean, it's so visceral that I don't understand it, but my body keeps telling me something. It's >> Yeah. And it just My head and my body just isn't aligned. >> That's okay. That's okay. They might not be able to hear you right now. That's That's okay because what's happening is the change is starting to happen. >> Mhm. Mhm. because the realization is starting to kind of go, "Oh, Sorry." Um, but because it's starting to realize, it's starting to get into your body. Your body and mind are kind of in conflict with your soul as well. >> They're like, "Hold on, this is a new feeling." >> That's okay. Capture that feeling. That's the moment to decide is to say, "Do I want to keep this feeling of knowing that yes, there will be a dissonance in my mind?" because my rational mind wants to keep telling what my therapist said because that's the therapist repeating 15 years of you know now we need to talk about your mother again for the 7,000th time your body is saying no I am good enough even now and your soul is like no I always knew that >> that's not new information I don't even know why you're trying to give me that feedback right so the three energies all in not conflict but kind of unalignment with each other saying what what This is a new thing that we just felt >> right >> now. It's the moment to decide who's are you going to listen. Is your soul right? Is your body right? Is your mind right? It's a decision you have to make. And then every day you'll have to choose to have that courage to say I'm going to listen to that answer every single time. Right? >> Yeah. You want to be on a spot and make that decision right now with like 200 people watching or you want to make that decision in your own time? Are you ready to make the decision? Are you going to listen to your soul, your body, or your mind? >> My soul says I'm good enough. I'm >> Are you willing to make that decision? >> I I am. you're willing to make that decision. Not just because I'm asking, but actually I'm making that decision. >> No, because I >> because these people know you. Like those people online might not know you, but these people definitely know you. >> No, I And that's why I put my question because I want I want to I want to >> I I want I want to I want to change. I want to let it go. I want to I want to reinvent, you know, the next 40 years of my life. >> Beautiful. Beautiful. >> That's what I've been on a mission for this year. >> All right. Right. So the courage starts today. >> Yes. >> How you walk, how you operate, how you talk to people, the decision is made. Now it's all about courage. And know that it's been 40, 50, whatever number of years that you have told yourself or your mind has told yourself the that's not true which your soul has always known. So be okay on days. Give yourself grace on days where you wake up and you go, "Fuck, I'm not good enough." >> Be like, "All right, my soul's got me. I'll hold myself. I'll get myself through hell, but I'll come back out of it. I'll be back in the place where my soul will actually tell me the truth. And I know it sits with me at all times. Would you be open to that? >> Yes. >> Would you be open to having your friends hold you accountable to it? >> Yes, that will hold me. >> Amazing. Thank you so much, Iris. 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