Stop Learning From Your Failures

So, the most important thing you can do to avoid learning from your failures, which I really think is really important, is to start making adjustments to your behavior when the thing that went bad was somebody else's fault, was out of your control. When someone is driving drunk and you get into a car accident, it's not clear to me that you made a mistake. And if even though that's a bad outcome, it can be considered a failure of sorts. Got to be really careful about it. So, step number one is to calm down. Like literally, just calm down emotionally. Talk it through with someone. Just look at yourself. Are you calm? If you are not calm, don't make a conclusion. I want you all to think about the precision of this. I'm not even saying what you should learn or or shouldn't learn. I don't know. Right, that depends on the scenario. The key cognitive thing to do is don't be final. Don't conclude something. This is what I should do going forward when you're emotional. This is how people end up with problems. Like bluntly. Like you're really pissed at your partner and you're like, "Oh my god, never again." And then you form some kind of conclusion. It becomes an ultimatum. Absolutely sabotages. I'm never going to do this again. I conclude I am ugly. Men can't be trusted. Women can't be trusted. When you're feeling hurt. And those generalization black and white conclusions don't make a conclusion. Wait till you're calm and then just revisit the situation. That's as simple as it is, but it isn't easy.